Student made film - The Giver by 11th grader Betty E.

Sooo Ive been MIA. Heres why! BOOK DRIVE TAKING OFF!

Vlog #23 PC Pets

photos from Dog walks in town

 

I walk my dog a lot, selazi so  I have many photos.

 

Vlog# 22 A day in my life

Making friends

 

I've found it very difficult to make friends here in Ethiopia. Other than the kids that come around to watch movies, play games and act silly with me, I spend most of my time alone.

Sometimes I wonder if my lack of friendships stem from my behavior and hesitance at "putting myself out there", but most of the time I think its due to these 3 things.

The Language barrier. 

Cultural differences.

And my own skepticism.

  With the language barrier I find myself doubting the ability to build a real solid friendship. If we cant communicate, how can we ever get to know each other? Although I know plenty of volunteers who have managed to make friends, boyfriends, and family, despite the language, its just something I don't think I'm capable of.

Regarding cultural differences,  most women my age are married with children, they do not hang outside of their homes, and its considered inappropriate to befriend and hang out with a man one on one. So this again limits my options.

And with my own skepticism....

There are just TOO many people here who are only interested in "befriending" me, because they want something from me.

I met this fellow female teacher within the first few months that I moved into Wolisso. She was OVERLY kind, always asking me questions, always smiling and very polite. I liked her, but I knew something was off. She invited me to her home several times, and I couldn't make it for various reasons. She started calling me obsessively, getting upset when I told her I couldn't go to her house for dinner and then she started offering to wash my clothes, asking me where I lived and it was just soo weird. At first I thought her behavior was normal for the culture, maybe her desperation to befriend me & offers to wash my clothes and find out where I lived didn't mean anything significant... but after talking to another Ethiopian woman about the situation, I found out that her behavior wasn't normal at all.  I was told to steer clear from her.

This wasnt the first time I had met someone who only wanted to get to know me because of what they thought I could do for them. Other people have come up to me acting nice, offering to help, only to ask for money after or for my help with their American Visas.  I find it so hard to trust adults here, you never know their motives or true intentions. At least with the kids you get it up front because they are yelling out "Money! Money! Money!"

But to SOOO many of the adults here...

This one guy took the cake as he sat me down for 20 minutes to convince me of how he had made the cure for cancer and needed my help to bring it back to America... *sight* just spare me please.

Vlog #21 Ethiopian Culture

Vlog #20 Being black in Peace Corps Ethiopia

The fight

My kids bring so much laughter and joy into my life here. I really don't know how my service would be if I wasn't teaching / working with such wonderful kids.


One thing that I loveeeee to do here is to give test / quizzes.

Because class sizes are so overwhelmingly large, when I give out one of my weekly quizzes I send half of the class outside to sit, while the other half completes the test for 20 min or so, and then they switch.

I think I have a problem.. because I have wayyyy too much fun watching my kids intently and searching for cheaters while they take their quizzes. And there are always cheaters.


My senses heighten, my eyes dart around the room in hopes of locating the cheater. I feel like superman with extra sensitive hearing and vision and my imagination goes into overload as I search for this weeks cheating culprit.

I usually catch at least 1 student glancing in their notebook under the table, keeping pages between their legs, passing papers to their friends or bringing in strips of papers with notes written on it. I always give the cheaters I catch a second chance... or tell them to come after school to finish or retake the test, but boy do I have fun snatching those papers up and watching the kids squirm for just a teeny bit lol


One thing that absolutely makes me crack up is when its time for my students to switch places with the other half of the class that is waiting outside.

I announce that their time is up and there are always, ALWAYS protestors begging for a few more minutes

"Please teacher, I'm not done"

"Koy" wait

"just  little time..." they always say.

I usually give them 30seconds or so but after I can no longer wait I begin grabbing up papers. Some students willingly hand their test too me, others continue to beg and they even hide the test under their desk as they see me approach them!

It is also very common for students to refuse to let go of the papers. I grab the top part of their test and pull, and they hold onto the bottom half with this pleading look in their eyes, begging for more time. They chant

"please teacher, please teacher, please teacher..."

and I cant help but laugh at the scene.

The students refuse to hand over their papers without a fight, I pull and they pull, their faces full of worry and fear while they beg, and mine full of amusement. I just cant help but laugh out loud and when I do I always feel like I'm pure evil for enjoying their anguish... but I cant help it.

 

 

Vlog #19

Vlog 19

On Harrassment

 This is a topic I've been meaning to cover for awhile, but never figured out how I should talk about it... So I decided not to.. Instead Im forwarding / reposting another Peace Corps Ethiopia Volunteers blog on the topic who captured what female volunteers face very often here.


Link to her Blog here & also written below

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

On Being Hated

As our end of service approaches, and we get nearer and nearer to home and questions and Ethiopian storytime, I think it’s an appropriate time for some gritty honesty, for my own sake. Lately I’ve limited myself to hints, but the problem has become all-encompassing, comparable to the sorts of sun-blocking storm clouds that hang over Mt. Soloda in our rainy season, and I know I should share before coming home—I guess so that, well, you believe me, and do so while it’s happening. So that you know it has never been hyperbole.

“I’ve never felt so disrespected in my life” is a line I know I’ve heard before, fielded and responded to before, in conversations with family and friends. Something happens at work, at the store, in a board meeting, and you can’t forget it. This isolated moment hangs there in your mind and your heart, for weeks, maybe months, and you try to set it loose to be forgotten and overcome.

I want you to know what it looks like to be a foreigner and a woman, to be a target for unceasing ostracism and contempt. To be a foreigner and a woman living in Ethiopia.

At least twice a week I go through a bout of misery. A deep hopelessness resulting in bitter anger. That statement—I’ve never felt so disrespected in my life—is not an isolated, once-in-a-blue-moon moment for us female volunteers. It has become our state of being. Every other day, at the very least, for the past 21 months, I have been sexually harassed. Men have licked their lips, kissed the air, stared at my breasts, invited me alone to their homes (we've been told that in Ethiopian culture, if a single man invites a woman alone to his home, it means the likes of Come sleep with me), asked about my sex life, professed their love for me, gawked at me for half hours like I’m a poster, described my features in inappropriate detail, called me sexy, etc. And I come home feeling like a used object on a broken shelf.

The male volunteers will never quite understand this. They support us dearly, and listen well—and they sometimes see it happen—but they’ll never fully feel it as their own. It will rarely ever be directed towards them. They’ll always be the supporters, not the ones needing the support and not wanting to ask for it.

What this means is: when, weekly, I vent and cry to Daniel about the particular sexual harassment I’ve been given that week, I end up feeling relieved in the moment—for having told him, and for how he soothes and encourages me, lifts me up—but gradually, gradually I end up feeling like an awful individual. I struggle with the questions: Am I an awful volunteer? Am I becoming a horrible person? Am I so full of hate—and how is he not? Am I so weak, so thin-skinned? Could I be exaggerating this somehow? Is it even a problem, or is it only in my head? Shouldn’t I be over it by now? Will I be like this when we go home, too?

I am an object of hate. I am ridiculed, I am blatantly desired. They see me as separate, as other and yet simultaneously, as theirs. They think I belong to them, that I exist for their entertainment and lust.

I only leave our home when I have to: school, church, market. It’s inside my house, within our stone-wall compound, that I feel like a person. Like a loved woman, not an abused one. Like I can be healthy and normal and free.

I’m legitimately afraid of who I’m becoming, of the gentle self I may have lost, of the thoughts that run through my head, of the comments I make about Ethiopia, about Ethiopians. I am angry. Most of the time I feel like a burning ball of hate. I feel unfairly wounded, and feel the need to fight back. I don’t feel the same loving person that I arrived. And I feel alone in this. Daniel and the rest of the male volunteers despise being called Money and You! White! It’s awful, the continuous psychological strain is exhausting, but it can’t quite ever reach the likes of Sex! or Pus*y!

My sweet friend was told by a stranger on the road: “I want to lick your…” Fill in the blank yourselves. (Southern Nations--SNNPR)

My good friend had a man on the road run up to her and grab her crotch, right in front of her husband. A police officer stood by on the road, playing with his phone, while her husband had to be the one to do the “punishing.” (Amhara)

Multiple friends have reported of men showing them pornography on buses, as a sort of sick invitation. One volunteer sat beside such a man on a bus, as he masturbated beside her and her visitor from the states. (Multiple regions)

Three of my friends often tell me how frequently they are grabbed and groped as they walk to work—their breasts, their buttocks—by men they pass by. (Amhara, Oromia, Tigray)

Enjoying a gracious meal with one of our favorite families, the Negas, our good evening took a turn when I received the first of what became a long string of texts that night from an unknown number. The sender described for me what the different parts of my body would taste like. (Tigray)

And this is no longer shocking to us. It’s commonplace. We expect it; this is what it is. It’s a part of our lives now. And all the while we give up so much to help our predators. To serve them and their country.

When I cry to Daniel, I often belittle my experience, to question my own psychology. I haven’t been grabbed once. The other girls have it so much worse than I do. Why am I so affected by this? Why can I not keep it out of my head? Why is it so so damaging? What's wrong with me?

A wise friend told me, “But we shouldn’t have to qualify it! Why are we telling ourselves that this isn’t that bad, that there are worse things? No one should have to go through this, any of it, ever, whatever the degree.”

It is always affecting us women. We walk to school, to market, anywhere, and we have our mantras prepared. We are muttering to ourselves what we’ll say, what we’ll do, when they target us—not if, no it’s never if, it’s when. So even when they’re not speaking to us, they’re winning. Even when they’re not speaking to me, I’m hating them.

Unless they’re my colleague or shopkeeper or trusted friend, I purposefully ignore men in the age group of 15 and 45. I ignore their hellos. When Daniel greets his students on the road, I usually continue walking, eyes focused ahead, indifferent scowl plastered on my face. It's grossly unfair: a very vocal minority have made me of wary of an entire group, filled with good men who could be making my time in Ethiopia richer, if I gave them the chance. Four hundred or so men, in the course of my 21 months here, who have exercised that power they think is their right to lord over me—a mere woman—have sullied the image of the other 30,000 men in my town. These 30,000 men have become untrustworthy until proven otherwise. It's generalizing at its worst, for the sake of my own safety.

How it changes us: We wear frumpy, unattractive clothing, and no makeup. We make eye contact with no one. We keep to our houses, our rooms. We avoid certain colleagues and schools whose principals make moves on us. We welcome no conversation from strangers on the road, because we know what the comments will quickly become 70% of the time. If we own headphones, we always wear them when out in public. We are losing our sweet, loving, and welcoming spirits. We have become hardened.

I say we, because I only just fully realized. I knew we were being sexually harassed, I knew it wasn’t only me, that it was happening to all 160 of us female volunteers living in Ethiopia; we can’t escape it. We learned this early. But what I didn’t know was that it was affecting all of us almost entirely the exact same way. That all this time, we were fully together in this—every single bit of this.

We just attended our annual All-Volunteer Conference in Addis Ababa. On the first day we had a session for the ladies, to discuss gender inequality in this country, to discuss how we’re treated, and how we can cope with it in healthy, non-destructive ways. When our session leader shared that “when my parents came to visit, they said, ‘Wow, honey, you’ve become quite mean,’” the relief that rose from my chest was unquantifiable. That’s me, I whispered. When one friend talked about having lost her ability to keep eye contact with people, to be friendly with strangers, the tears began to surface. That’s me, I whispered. When a volunteer talked about the “stink face” she wears everywhere in public—how shocked she was by it when her friend took a candid photo to show her later—I laughed knowingly. That’s me too. The entire session, as we all unloaded on each other for support, and shared and coped, all I could do was weep silently. I didn’t know how powerful, how important, solidarity and understanding could be. For the first time, I was looking into my fellow female volunteers’ faces and seeing my own reflection.

And then our male staff-member, there to support us, to hope along with us for some solution or answer, stood to encourage us, and he couldn’t finish his sentence. He cried alongside us, and we wondered that he could feel the weight of it too.

I thought I was less, I thought I was pathetic. I thought I was becoming as unchristian as I could possibly be, and that it was my own fault, that surely I could be handling this better, more maturely and compassionately. But, in fact, we’ve all been psychologically forced to the same dark and difficult place. The place in the corner of our minds where we must daily try to force the light back in, reminding ourselves that we are strong, good, beautiful women, and we are no one’s objects to possess. We are our own selves.

I suppose I want you to know the truth of it. That this is really really hard. That today, in Ethiopia, you have 160 strong women serving your country and world to help work towards peace and development and education and quality of life for all. That many days, maybe most days, we’re suffering through it. But we remain strong, and will defeat this. The western world is outnumbered in their earnest and successful efforts to keep men and women equal, and if this is all we ever see, this is all we’ll ever see. I wish you knew what it was like almost everywhere else.

In our All-Volunteer Survey, over half of our volunteers surveyed reported that they are sexually harassed at least a few times each week. A quarter of all the volunteers surveyed reported they are sexually harassed more than once each day. When these surveys were compared to those throughout the rest of Africa’s Peace Corps posts, Ethiopia ranked First in sexual harassment.

And yet we’re only getting a two-year glimpse—and though an awful one—just a two-year period of being treated as less, as worse, as not good enough, i.e. as “woman”. We’re told, “No—you can’t climb that mountain; you’re a woman,” as they laugh at us; we’re asked, “How can you be fat and single? No man will marry you,” as they laugh at us; we’re asked by male colleagues, “Would you like me to measure myself for you, so I can tell you my size?” as they grin at us; we’re asked, “Is your husband good in bed?” as they snicker at us—and the entire time we know in that bright corner of our minds that we are getting out of here in just a few months, in just another year, etc. We will escape these common horrors eventually—it’s a sacrificial sliver in our lifetimes—but the women around us, the women and young girls in our communities whom we come to love and adore and admire: they have to live with this. Indefinitely. And while we at least have the relief of complete awareness of our injustice and the indignation that follows, they will go on thinking it normal and acceptable and their own burden to carry—until someone will do something to change it.

To our families: I suppose maybe you’ve compared Daniel’s musings about Ethiopia with mine, the way I had been doing, and found me falling short. I’ve been afraid you think me weak and under-qualified for this job I committed to. That I’m weak-willed, less tolerant, and simply more dramatic than my husband. I’ve been afraid you think me prejudiced and bitter-hearted for no reason (for how can you possibly know what this is?). I’ve been afraid that maybe, around your dinner tables, you discuss how bad and inappropriate my attitude has become, how I blow things out of proportion, how inadequate I am for this job, how I haven’t lived up to the task I’ve been given. But what I want you to know, before we come home, is that I am brave. I am resilient. And after 630 so days of this, I am still here. I didn’t quit. And I suppose, somehow, I still actually want to be here to help them. I think that has to say something.

And perhaps, with the hate, love is there too.

This is undoubtedly “the toughest job I’ll ever love”. The toughest job, thing, two-year stretch, whatever you want to call it, that I will never experience again.

As I trudge through the murky recesses of a wounded and slowly-recovering spirit while the near-nightmare continues, I’m focusing on Love. Specifically, on Christ’s words in Matthew 5: 43-48.

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

 A Christian for 15 or so years, I thought I knew what this meant, what Jesus meant when He said this. I thought “frenemies” counted in this category. Annoying people, know-it-alls, and the “least of these.” I thought they were who it was hard to love and who we had to love anyway. Let me suggest that maybe that is quite easy by comparison. I didn’t really know Hate until I joined Peace Corps. When I become most hopeless and full of rage and doubt, I remember that Christ knows exactly what it feels like to be an object of disgust. He didn’t have frenemies—he was “despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” (Isaiah 53: 3). The Son of God was trampled by hateful men, and yet He tells us to love those who hate us. To turn the other cheek. To respond not in hate, but with love. For if we love those who love us—should we be congratulated?

Before now, I’ve always prided myself on being an exceptionally nice person. Kind to everyone, always assuming the best of people. Then I came here and realized that for the past 25 years, people were being kind to me too. What credit was it to me? Yellen—there is none. Easy peasy.

So while I’ve certainly never been so disrespected in my entire life, and never will be again to this unyielding, heightened degree—neither have I been so humbled. So shocked into a deep understanding of my sinful humanity, Christ’s perfection, and the depth of His love for us. To, for the first time, understand what my Lord meant when He turned an age-old custom on its head and made it nearly impossible to fulfill—and entirely impossible to fulfill by our own human power. To, for the first time, know that I don’t know the first step to fulfilling this command. On my own, I am no different from the lowest of men: I know how to love those who treat me nicely; big, amazing deal.

So I thank God for His grace. He knows how to love those who hate us—He’s done it, and He did it well—and He won’t keep it a secret from us. If we ask Him to show us how that cheek-turning thing works, surely, surely, He will.

Upon Him was the chastisement that brought me peace, and with His wounds I am healed.

Footnotes

I’ve written this same “blog entry” three times in the past five months—and yet I never post it. I end by crying into my hands, angrier than when I started, and knowing I can’t possibly express or share what can barely be understood and only judged. Daniel and I have made a conscious decision to keep our posts as positive as possible, to sift out as much negativity (even if deserved) as possible. Because this is our fear: Crude catcalls linger in the memory more vividly than beautiful coffee ceremonies; inappropriate colleagues may be more memorable than our stories of our sweet Meron. We do love Ethiopia; we do love living in Ethiopia. And so we use our writing carefully, so that we don’t distort your image of this unique place when we’re in our worst and weariest moods. But I also believe that we can’t fully understand what it means to love a place, unless we know the whole of it—unless we know how difficult it can be to love that place. Somehow the value of the love increases. And the fact that I’ve tried and wanted to give you the full account of it at least three times—tells me that maybe, somehow, I should tell you. That maybe, somehow, you can benefit from it.

One of the main manifestations of Christ’s gracious love for me has been the one who listens to every account of this every day, with compassion and hurt and love, not knowing how to deal with it but trying as hard as he can, and who tells me that I am a good volunteer, that I am a good Christian, and I am a good woman. As I speak words of doubt, he counters them with words of encouragement. I’d have been on a plane home a year ago if it wasn’t for this daily and very crucial help from the worthiest and best of helpmates. He helps me to be the strongest of women. I think I’ll be forever inspired by my 150 or so role models who somehow withstand and overcome this, and stay here, without their own Daniel. We weren’t meant to bear such burdens. And yet somehow, we do.

Vlog #18

Vlog #18  - Teaching in PC Ethiopia

Vlog #17

 Natural Hair Care in Peace Corps

Mojo's nemesis

I walk my pup pup every singly day. Usually 2x a day to make sure hes exposed to all kinds of people. I want him to be well socialized. The thing about walking your dog when you live in rural Ethiopia is that there are many things a dog has to get used to.

1: The town crazies. Usually men walking around partially naked and chewing on Chat or smelling like alcohol. (mojo doesn't like these men, he automatically barks or gets more alert when we are around drunk men… which I kinda love because they don't bother me so much anymore)

2: Children on the street who either yell out “Ferenji!!” , “ Africa! ”, “Astamari!” Teacher “Ashley!” and now who yell out “Woosha!” Dog

These kids usually just want to touch and pet him but most are afraid too. Some muster up the strength after I encourage them and tell them that Mojo wont bite.

3: Livestock

Donkeys. Horses. Goats. Ox. Chickens. Sheep. Cows. Other wild dogs and cats… and this is where it gets interesting.

With most animals Mojo is cool, he is heck a chill. Cool as a cucumber. He shows interest, & curiosity and isn't barking or ferocious at all. Except for this one day when we ran into a family of Goats. The most adorable baby goats or “kids” and 2 adult ones.  Right outside the gate of my compound this family of Goats stood around lazily grazing the grass and mojo begins to bark at them as we walk by.

As soon as that bark escapes his lips. The mother Goat with these huge horns atop her head, and large swinging utters underneath turns her head and all her attention to Mojo.
She did not make a sound. She just stared for about 5 seconds until suddenly she starts charging at Mojo!

Teats swinging as she broke out into a little trot towards my sweet puppy! Mojo begins barking, very aware that this huge 50-70lb goat is charging at him. The baby goats go running off. The other adult goat starts making his way over to all the commotion.

I walk up between Mojo and the Goat, knowing my poor pup had no chance to survive this encounter if this thing tries to headbutt him or step on him. Once Im standing between them both of the goats comes to a stop, but the mother tries to walk around me in order to get to Mojo!

“Shoo!
“Shoo!
“Shoo!
 Im yelling at the goat and swinging my hand in a manner to tell it to back off, while standing in between it and Mojo.

But this thing is persistent! Even after gaining some distance from it and its babies, it still continues to follow Mojo! Just waiting for an opportunity to strike when my back is turned and when Im not there to ward it off from my puppy. So I end up just picking Mojo up and carrying him away.

Ever since this little encounter, whenever this Goat sees or smells Mojo it starts charging for him. Several days have passed and still, when we walk anywhere near this thing it starts trotting towards my pup.

 Im afraid Mojojojo has met his nemesis.

Vlogs #15 & #16

Vlog #15 - Dating in Peace Corps

Vlog #16 - My Home.. all decorated and everything :D

International Pen Pal Exchange

In an effort to make writing more fun, & engaging, I decided to organize an International Pen Pal Project with my classes and some of the English club students who showed interest. I utilized every social media outlet possible (lies, I only used Facebook) and I contacted my teacher friends in an effort to find American teachers that were teaching high school students and who were seriously interested in this project.
 
I was soooo pumped and excited for this exchange. It would give my kids a chance to experience life through another kids eyes, in another country, in another culture. It would get them to see pass their small world and limitations. It would give them a reason to improve their writing skills!!!  which are seriously lacking…

I managed to locate one 9th grade class in Nicaragua, one 9th grade class in Japan, one with my friend Chelsea another PCV serving in a different region of Ethiopia, and several in America (one of them being my Alma mater Palisades High School woot woot!)

 I thought I was the bees knees for organizing this project. (and i still think I kinda am) But what I didn't anticipate were all the problems this international exchange would present.

I managed to find many solutions for all these potential problems.

#1 make students OVER explain EVERYTHING. Remind them that the smallest detail of their lives might be fascinating to a child in another country. I also told my kids to use adjectives to describe the cultural items they mentioned or draw photos!

#2 I talked with each teacher ahead of time to ask them about taboo topics & we agreed to screen all letters and tell the kids what they could/ couldn't say. Another option is to let the kids share what they want willingly to challenge their mindset, & learn how to respect others differences. But I wasn't about to play this risky game with the LGBT stuff…

#3 The teachers that I’m working with and myself agreed to address common misconceptions about each country and culture. Innocent questions and curiosity is harmless, but hopefully we can remind our students not to be insensitive. The purpose of this cross cultural exchange is to share cultures and part of that will be dispelling myths and providing true insight.

#4 I don't know how many teachers I talked too before selecting the ones that I did. SO MANY interested parties just stopped responding to my emails, or would respond VERY late and I took that as a sign that they would be late with everything else. So I shopped around to find the teachers that were as serious about this project as I was. And I found some AMAZING teachers! One is already talking about helping me put on a book drives and getting donations to my school!

#5 I read & edit every one of my kids letters and I have them rewrite them with the corrections. All 200-ish of them. And the students struggling the most with writing are signed up to write their pen pal letters to other Ethiopian students. I also make our bimonthly letters include things we are currently learning and use it as a way to test my kids and get them serious about writing properly. (Proper grammar, adverbs, adjectives, new vocabulary words, and certain tenses (past, present, continuous)

These were the main problems that I could foresee with this project and that I experienced as I began to correct student letters.

One problem that I didn't consider at all until it started happening was plagiarism.

 

The above letter reads:

Dear Bankmoon the President of China, first of all may my peace reach you. As I have tried to remind you in the previous letter, concerning our peaceful relationship, our relationship shall continue with the feelings of brotherhood without any interruption.

      Our relationship shall be based on the exchange of: - various transactions, different mode of life, styles of learning.  And also, it shall be on the basis of mutual aid in the times of problem and emergency situations. All these conditions should be conducted in a faithful and brotherhood manner.

Additionally, the exchange of:- good cultures, good governing systems and models of economic development could be borrowed betwen us.

     Generally, our relationship shall be based upon exchange of :- various transactions, good cultures, good governing system and models of economic development in the faithfulness and brotherly hood manner.

With best regards,

Bold faced plagiarism! And its not even good plagiarism! How did this student ever think this would fly?!

1) I’ve graded your other test, I’ve seen what your capable of on a good day and a bad day. And I don't think you even know how to spell "models of economic development"     [-_-]

2) Who told you that you were writing to the President of China? THE PRESIDENT OF CHINA! lol Its great that you think so highly of yourself... apparently this isn't your first letter to Mr. Bankmoon, since you "reminded him in the previous letter" smh...

Two of my students wrote this letter to the President of China. It became abundantly clear to me that maybe my kids didn't know that they would be writing ACTUAL students. Although I told them several times and I told them what to write in their letters (name, age, family information, future goals...) Perhaps they thought I just wanted them to put together any letter for a grade... I really don't know... In addition to letters for the President of China, I also got this...

The above letter reads:

Dear Manager
Jimma Company
PO BOX
Jimma

Dear sir,
I am writing to apply for the post of clerical officer you have advertised in Ethiopia.
     I am responsible person and willing to work hard in the post. My father says that I deserve a good job as I have worked hard at school and passed all of my examination with distinction in English and maths. I incolsed detelid of may examination results and hope that you will consider me seutable    application for the posistion. I look forward to hearing from you.
    Your faithfully,


This kid decided to apply for a job!
I had a good laugh reading many of my kids letters. They were just SO RANDOM! Others looked like this:

At least this student didn't copy. The above print is how MOST of my kids letters, homework assignments & test papers look.

This student may not have completed the assignment, but it was authentic. I cant say the same for the others.

I soon discovered that the kids who were plagiarizing letters to the president, or job applications, or just copying random letters, were all students who are scoring pretty low in my class. These kids were soo intimidated by writing these letters that they only felt comfortable stealing written work from other sources and other people.

Here is another letter from a student in my 9th grade class who struggles with English but tries so hard to learn and has shown SO MUCH improvement. She makes my heart smile.

 

This letter reads:

Dear Pen Pal,

    My name is Seble Moges I'm so excited to get to know you! I live in Welisso my country name is Ethiopia. I am 23 years old. I have 3 brother and 3 sister. My father is dead two years ago. My interest is help my mother and sister and brother. My free time swming and different film watch. I funn to study my lesson. Finally my plan go to university then I study Ingereing b/c (because) I help to building my country. 

:) <3

Sebles writing is typical for the 9th graders in my class. Well for the majority of the class, there are another 25% of students who are below her writing level skill.

This letter is an example of the TOP  25%. The Gobez clever kids in my class.

 

This letter reads:

Dear Pen Pal,

    My name is Lemane. I come from Ethiopia, Wolisso town. I am 15 years old. I have a familey. My fathers name is Duguma and he is police man. my mothers name is Asrael and she is a teacher. I have a brother and a sister. They are claver students.

    I like to watch Amharic films, Amharic is the national language of Ethiopia. And I like to ride my bicycle in my free time. I like Injera and coffee. Injera is the traditional food of Ethiopia. It is very delicious food.

    My future plan is to go to university and graduate with a degree in medicine and then I will become to a doctor. I think you understand my name, my family, my favorite food and drink. Now what is your favorite food and drink Your future plans and what do you like in your free time. Thank you for every one

Best wishes

Your friend

I ended up providing a template for the students who needed it most. Providing something like...

Hello, My name is _________. I am ______ Years old and I am from _________.

Students who could barely write at all ended up using this template, but still wrote things like

Hello, My name is __Ashley_______.

Sometimes I just dont know what to do with my students haha God bless them. But this Pen pal exchange is in full effect :) I promise to keep yall updated on how it goes!

6 months in country & Vlog #14

Things you get used to after living 6 months in Ethiopia

#1
Being a celebrity

everywhere you go, you’re being watched. The townspeople know what you did last summer, yesterday, and this morning.

Kids on the school campus  hang outside of windows & stand outside your classroom door just to get glimpses of you. You get used to kids staring at you. In fact you learn how to classify the stares

The wait... are you speaking English?! But aren't you Ethiopian stare

The quick glances, side eye & I'm tryna be lowkey and not have you know I'm staring stare

The stare / winks / gestures that say "hey hot stuff, come over here" but their mouths actually say" ANCHI! you ANCHI! you ANCHI! you,  Where are you go?

The you don't speak Amharic.. but you're black so what part of Africa are you from kinda stare 

The I'm looking at you dead in the eye and not blinking cuz i have no shame staring kinda stare

The let me watch you walk down the block, turn the corner and look back to see me still staring at you stare

#2
You get used to living amongst livestock and seeing, smelling and avoiding stepping on poop everywhere. You also know that you must carry your own soap & toilet paper wherever you go, because restaurants, schools, offices and just every single place in Ethiopia refuses to provide you with these thngs.

Yeah we have a bathroom.
oh but you thought we'd provide the toilet paper for you.. awww, how cute

#3
Seeing men in women's clothing and shoes. A 40 year old man wearing ruby red Jellies will no longer leave you confused.

Nor will you be confused when that ruby red jellies man starts walking hand in hand down the street with another man. Or even when he places his hand on another mans thigh as they sit down. Yup male affection is a thing here.

Two male friends showing the world that they are besties

#4
You begin to slowly realize that you're feet will never look the same again. A lack of hot water, mani-pedis, and the fact that your town mainly has dirt roads has changed your feet for the worse.

#5
You embrace being known as the crazy foreigner.
Yup I'm 25, childless & not married
Yup Im a woman sitting alone in a restaurant, eating & paying for my own meal.
Yup I wear ALOT of pants. I walk my dog on a lease & sometimes I wear knee high socks - keep staring, maybe you’ll learn how not to give a crap one day too.

You learn a lot about yourself living in a new country and culture for 6 months…

 #6
 I’ve realized, for one that I am not that friendly

Sure I smile, I am polite, but while you’re sitting there mistaking my kindness for interest and babbling on and on about your life, im sitting here like...

I’ve always known that I needed my ME time, I need a lot of personal space. And this little fact about me has been highlighted in Ethiopia. Ethiopians are never really alone. These people are incredibly hospitable, friendly and sociable. And it wasn't until their culture of “lets always be together sunshine and rainbows” started to clash with my “loner mode” did I realize how inhospitable, unfriendly, and unwelcoming I could truly be.

Just leave me in my solitude

#7
I’ve realized that I am low-key brave

Family back home sometimes throw this word around like “Oh Ashley is so adventurous & brave for traveling solo, or for going to Africa, etc… And I never saw what they were talking about. I still don't when it comes to the traveling aspect of it all… But I’ve seen bravery in myself when I’m walking through town and that crazy guy down the street starts following me or bothering my friend. I’ll quickly push his hand away, or stand taller in any guys presence who seems threatening here…its probably because most Ethiopian men here are so small though lol

#8
I’ve realized that I am dirty

I sometimes go several weeks without a shower and Im ok with it. I’ll just baby wipe this area.. and that area..put on a clean pair of underwear and Ill call it a day. I kiss my dog, I sleep with him somedays, and oh.. wait is that a flea? It is… hmm, what Tv show should I watch next?

#9
I’ve realized how much I love my family and Church
Sometimes you don't realize the support system you have until its gone.

#10
And finally,

I’ve realized that I can totally do the remainder of my ~1.5 years left in Ethiopia

6 months down. 21 more to go.

Vlog #14 in Honor of reaching 6 months in country.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.”

The Hes so cute I could eat his little face off photo

Christmas puppy

He was given to me by another PC friend and although my run with animals hasn't been very good in Ethiopia...

Baby chick.... dead
Kitten... probably dead
lol

I promise this puppy will be different! Peace Corps Ethiopia volunteers aren't officially allowed to have animals as pets because rabies is so prevalent here.

BUT as a good mother, I've already found a vet in Addis and I'm just waiting for Mojojojo here to get old enough to take the rabies shot.

Oh yeah... Im awesome ;)

 

What wasn't very awesome was how Mojo ended up peeing on the woman who sat next to me on the bus as he rode to Wolisso for the first time.

 

Yeah that was very awkward... Mojo is from the town of Aleta Wondo in the South of Ethiopia. Hes Ethiopian born and bred. I've had several dogs in the past, so I didnt worry too much about bringing Mojo into my home and making him the newest member of my family.

But then I remembered that I live in Ethiopia...where do you buy dog food? flea collars? chew toys? and dog shampoo? It turns out that you dont. Not even in Addis.

I talked to Mojos new Vet, and he confirmed that all my pups food had to be homemade, and that if I wanted toys and flea collars and leashes and things of that sort then I would have to have them mailed to me.
 After a quick Google search the food problem quickly dissipated. Currently Mojo is eating boiled powdered milk with oats, scrambled, or boiled eggs. Corn flour with hot water and milk, injera, rice, CousCous, and some fruits, veggies and meat when I can afford to give it to him or mix it in his meal.

I know that culturally many Ethiopians, especially those living in rural towns, do not keep dogs as pets and my experience with Mojo thus far has shown me exactly how true this is. Dogs are used solely for protecting the house. They are commonly mistreated, chained up 24/7 and not given much affection. This makes them into very aggressive, yet very affective guard dogs. 

But it also means that I have now given the people of my town another reason to stare at me and think of me as the crazy foreigner.

I play with Mojo, I kiss him, and hold him, and pet him and even let him sleep in my house, sometimes on my bed.

This is exactly how my landlady, the kids in my compound and EVERYONE in town looks at me when Im interacting with my new pup.

Its quite hilarious actually. Im so accustomed to the stares and townspeople talking about me that it does not faze me in the slightest. In fact I've decided that maybe the people of Wolisso can learn a little something about dogs and how they can be more than just vicious biting machines.

Im teaching Mojo how to sit and follow other commands in both English and Amharic. So this way when I say "Sit" in Amharic the townspeople will understand the command and be that much more impressed when they see that the dog listens.

Im trying to show the kids in my compound how to play with him. Because currently they are either afraid to go near him, or they only kick & throw rocks at him because that's what they see other people doing to dogs in town.

 

I walk Mojo on a self made leashe all around Wolisso. People laugh and point at me, they jeer, and smile and shake their heads at "the crazy foreigner" with her dog on a rope.

Grown men and children see me walking with the dog, and now even without the dog and they yell out 

"Woosha!" dog

"Woosha!"  dog

"Woosha!" dog

 I prefer it to "YOU, YOU, YOU" or "Ferenji" haha But in addition to getting a kick out of laughing at me, these people are also seeing Mojo follow me happily with his talk wagging. They see him eager to greet and play with others who come near and they see him not growling or barking. Im going to make my pup into the worlds most friendliest and well behaved dog, in an effort to dispel the myths about dogs that people have here.

When I brought Mojo home, the first thing my landlady said to me was "I do not like dogs", and I was worried that she would make me get rid of him. But she didnt.. well not yet anyway.. so that makes me even more eager to properly train him.

My next door neighbor also approached me and said "Why did you get this dog? He is ugly. He is Ethiopian dog. You should have got American dog. Ethiopian dogs are not nice.  He will give you problem. I am afraid he will eat you."

I tried telling the man that all dogs can be trained and tamed and be great pets. But he just smiled at me, probably thinking "This ridiculous foreigner is gonna die when this pup gets bigger" 

Mojo playing with a new friend... who eventually gave him fleas and so now I've forbidden him from every seeing her again.

Update: Its been about a month since I brought Mojo home and THIS HAPPENED! :D

Kas by kas Seeing the kids play with mojo like this makes me so happy. A few weeks ago they would only throw things at him, and touch him with the soles of their shoes for fear of him biting them. When I brought mojo home I was told by my landlady and neighbors that he was ugly, that he would eat me, and that they didnt like dogs. I knew id have to change their perception and that it would take time.. but little by little I feel it happening :)

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Ethiopian Christmas

I have officially survived the holiday season. 70 volunteers came into Ethiopia with my group (G11) in June and now 59 remain. About 4-5 of the people who’ve left Ethiopia, left during the holiday season.

It can be challenging being away from family & friends during this time of year, I’ve found it challenging myself.

Christmas for me usually means family, fond childhood memories, togetherness, spirituality, laughs and love. As a Christian Peace Corps Volunteer, it is fascinating to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ in a country and culture that regards religion as everything.

Whether Muslim or Christian, religion is so intertwined within Ethiopian culture it is difficult to tell where one ends and the other begins. Waking up to the calls of prayer everyday becomes synonymous with Ethiopian culture, but it finds its roots in religion. Seeing “Fasting foods” written on the pages of every menu in every restaurant you go to becomes normal, as does eating goat and lamb because people do not eat the “unclean” pig here. Religion dictates the way people dress, the foods they cook, the way they dance, sing and live.

 Lunch at a friends for Genna Christmas

There aren't many frills with celebrating the birth of Christ here in Ethiopia. No ostentatious red & green Christmas lights & decorations covering the outside of homes, no tales of Santa Claus, his reindeer or anything that can diminish the true meaning of this Holy day. Celebrating Christmas in Ethiopia means a time of prayer, family and church. Many Ethiopians fast for 40 days and break their fast on Christmas day to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. The scent of sweet spices, the gathering of family, and sounds of laughter fill the room. Simple decorations are put up, and small gifts are sometimes given to little children. But all gives praise and glory to God for the gift of life His Son gave us. January 7th is when Ethiopians celebrate the day that the Son of God also became the Son of man. When he would physically be "God with us", Emmanuel.

There is something pure and completely uplifting about the simplicity of Christmas in Ethiopia. I admire how true they stay to the root of Christmas. It is looked at only as the birth of Jesus, and only celebrated by those who rejoice & recognize the significance of that moment in time. My Christmas in Ethiopia was very intimate. With my family and my closest friends an ocean away, I spent most of my time in solitude. Lonely at first, and missing the festivities back home, and then just alone with Him. I try to meditate on His goodness, His grace, and His love. We talk, I pray and reflect on life, a higher purpose, & forgiveness.

I need to learn how to have more moments like this. I need to work on just dwelling in His presence.

Melkam Genna Merry Christmas

"If we could condense all the truths of Christmas into only three words, these would be the words: 'God with us.' We tend to focus our attention at Christmas on the infancy of Christ. The greater truth of the holiday is His deity.  More astonishing than a baby in the manger is the truth that this promised baby is the omnipotent Creator of the heavens and the earth!"

-  John MacArthur